Finding friends at your new job

Once you've left education, your workplace can become one of the main places where you form new friendships.

One thing that can cause nerves when you begin a new job is whether or not you'll get on with the people you're working with and whether you'll make friends – this applies to hospitality jobs as well as other lines of work.

We've put together a little bit of advice for those who want to try and boost the chances that they'll form friendships at work sooner, rather than later.

Of course, getting to know your colleagues isn't an exact science, so you might have different ways of doing things. See what you think!

Say hello

Be proactive about introducing yourself and you run less risk of coming across as if you're not interested in getting to know the people you're working with.

It's arguably harder for the new person to say hi to everyone else than it is for the old-hands to initiate a conversation. You'll likely be more nervous than they are, after all!

But if you can be brave enough to start an exchange of conversation with everyone you work with, at appropriate times during your early days, you're perhaps more likely to find some good work friends fast!

Talk shop

You'll learn about both the job and the people you're working with by asking them work-related questions. Good conversation starters that fit naturally into the workplace include things like how to request holiday, what people usually do on their break, etc. This way you'll be connecting to colleagues in a way that is also productive when it comes to your initial induction.

Don't avoid work socials

Going out with the work gang can seem a little scary to some people, if they're uncomfortable around new faces. But it's also one of the main ways to connect with your colleagues, so don't turn down an invitation unless you have to – at least in the early days. Even if the activity isn't your thing (maybe you're not used to spending time in bars, for example?) give it a go!

Don't leave people out

You may find one person you click with quickly at work, and that's great. But it will be good for both you and your colleagues if you make an effort with each of them, and don't assume you're done in the finding-friends-at-work game!

Not everyone will click with you

In any workplace, you'll likely have some good friends, some people you only know a little and perhaps even a couple of people you're not that sure you like.

If there's someone who you're not sure of, try and keep an open mind, and make an effort to treat them with the same enthusiasm you would a friend. You never know, they might show you a side to themselves you have yet to see.